Thursday, May 24, 2012

The Very Bad Thing

A couple of days ago I mentioned in passing that a very bad thing had happened and promised to tell you about it later, so here it is. 

I have to tell this in the starkest possible terms because it's not a sympathetic tale.  Last Tuesday (the 15th) Charlie got a DWI.  He has prior alcohol offenses from his younger, wilder days and Missouri's laws are such that he's been charged with a felony.  The circumstances of his arrest aren't worth mentioning because what it boils down to is this:  he made the careless decision to drive after he'd had 3 or 4 beers and he knows better.  He has an attorney who said he'll do all he can, but there's not much room for haggling so Charlie's likely facing prison time.  How much, we don't know yet.  His court date's in mid-June and between now and then the prosecutor and the lawyer will come to some kind of an agreement, so we'll know then what Charlie's facing.

Understandably, this is a double-edged sword for me.  On the one hand, I believe that there's no excuse for drinking and driving and that folks should have to accept the consequences of their stupidity and carelessness.  On the other hand, selfishly, I don't want him to go to prison.  Since we've been together, Charlie has, in his quiet way, become indispensable to me.  He's my best friend and a true companion and the first man in a long, long time that I've been able to really see myself settling down with.  I've noticed (and y'all probably have too) that sometimes when I'm talking about the house I say "we" instead of "I".  Charlie's the first guy who ever had Kelly House projects of his own. 

And now, as he said the other night, "I might lose everything I've worked for."  His own house, his job, and his freedom are on the line.  My happy little life has been turned upside-down.  I'm equal parts angry, terrified, and sad about that. 

Robert Frost once said, "In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life. It goes on."  It sure does.  Regular programming resumes here tomorrow, with pictures too.


  1. Nobody was injured or died. Imagine how it could have been so much worse.

    I hope the judge or prosecutor has enough leeway to take into account the time between this and the previous ones.

    Maybe he could get character references for his attorney to give to the prosecutor.

  2. I don't know how accurate this site is, but it sounds like he might be able to get community service as an alternative to prison (I would think a lawyer would know that...)

    Missouri laws

  3. Karen Anne, Thanks. You're right, that would've been so much worse. His attorney mentioned a combination of electronic monitoring, supervised probation, and community service, with the possibility of 120 days "shock time" in the pen. We'll just have to see what the prosecutor agrees to.

  4. I know a gentleman who was able to keep his job during the day, and serve some of his time nights and weekends at the local jail. (His offense was a hit & run while drinking)

    Perhaps Charlie could talk to his lawyer and the judge about something like that.

    Hoping for good things to come.

    Jean - MN

  5. Yikes! So sad for you as you are the one who is most affected -- without having done anything.

    I've made that stupid mistake myself back in the day so I can hardly cast stones. I hope that Charlie appreciates the lesson here as it really could have been a lot worse. What if he had been in an accident and someone was injured or killed? Even HIM!(I know I'm preaching to the choir here.) For both of your sakes, I hope things go well. Thoughts and prayers.

  6. Indiana has similar laws, but with over crowded prisons they are a little more lenient on some types of offences...I think. Whatever the outcome I hope he learned his lesson and it does not hurt your relationship. I'll be praying for you both.

  7. re tweet: sorry about mrs. wtb leaving...

  8. Thank you everyone, for the support. This is scary.